Also, I got my mum to join in. I suspect she is naturally radical and that's where I get my genes.
I've also been getting loads of companies and organisations to change their forms and things re: gender via a small-but-active armchair activism blog MxActivist, and many are starting to include gender-neutral titles Mx and Misc on their online forms. It all feels like a snowball just starting to roll down a wintry mountain, gaining weight and momentum as it goes.
It's all going into this nonbinary.org wiki, particularly this section here on UK acceptance.
Well done on the gender stuff, Lotte! Hope the snowball continues to grow, even though I find it annoying that we/they need a title anyway????? Why not just a name? Then the gender doesn't matter. Or if gender is important, then use a name plus choices of gender that include gender-neutral description for those who prefer? I like being a woman, but maybe would accept gender-neutral in the cause of equality...?
ReplyDeleteAs for the issue of titles, in recent times, I have actually reverted to using Miss, where in the past I used Ms. I really don't like Ms... I never liked it because it's not a real word and unlike changed made in other countries, it never replaced Miss or Mrs, but became an additional title that is supposed to be marital-status-neutral, but just causes confusion.
I did use "Ms" when it was invented, thinking it was the beginning of a new age of neutrality around marital status as "Mr" provides for men. But as it's used alongside Miss and Mrs, it became not marital-status-neutral, but like waving a flag saying "I'm a feminist (occasionally lesbian) harridan" - not such a bad thing by the way. I've even (only a year or so ago) had a CRB form returned because I put "Ms" as a title but "single" as a marital status and they decided that only divorced women could be "Ms", FFS!!!!!
Given I'm now 50, I find using "Miss" a lot more defiant these days, but basically, the whole thing is a nonsense and completely frustrating and absolutely needs a radical re-think. So I don't completely support the use of Mx, as I don't see the need for yet another meaningless title. Why not just one's name?